Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Forever accepting that the only thing definite is death and the day in which there is no doubt...
As you might have figured out, I'm not as preoccupied as usual. I spend my hours in attempt to initiate my career through online applications - at this point, I am still optimistic, but the only stones I leave unturned are correctional officer (working in a prison) and a legal assistant. I'm beginning to consider policing as an domestic violence specialist - but I don't know...
Options are everywhere, nothing is definite. You can plan all you want, but the the micro-details are unpredictable (yes, I refer to your first career move as a micro-detail before you don't know where anything will lead you).
So the other day I was driving with a good friend (my mother); we go down to my favorite spot near the lake and she becomes as inspired as I. On our way there, I discussed a scenario that I fell into many times. Not once, not twice MANY times...where I was convinced that the final answer was already determined and it was time to carry on with the rest of my life. She looked at me and said; no. That one word shook me; no. Then did I realize, there is no final answer in this life except for death and the day in which there is no doubt (al youm la rayba fe - Judgment day). I was always convinced about determined answers; but nothing is definite. Nothing is the end of all roads; no answer is forever permanent. Maybe because I am not a mathematician in which all is black and white (right or wrong); I am a social scientist, where most or everything is grey.
I concluded that there are no conclusions in life; there is no guarantee that something is over; Your plans or your beliefs may be your aspirations, but definite are they really?
However, you might question, shouldn't we be determined enough to want things to be definite?
Lets say, for example - that a young woman wants to revolutionize her people to stand up against a system that is discreetly being designed to oppress them. She might desire it and pray for it, work for it and fight for it; but what is to say that will happen?
Than how confident can you be in your dreams and ambitions if things are not definite?
Now I confused myself - although I am convinced that humans have free will and can do as they wish; if they wanted to do something big and revolutionary but it doesn't go in that direction, is that necessarily a bad thing?
maybe this philosophy is just plain out stupid - wait, actually now I got it...
maybe there are somethings other than death and the day in which there is no doubt, and some things where you have control over? Maybe there are somethings that you are destined to do and you envision it years before it happens...is that a legitimate way to understand the term "definite"? Obviously, agnostics and atheists would think I'm retarded - but I'm still trying to figure out what I should close the book on and I should continue looking forward too....
maybe I should just stfu and just "koun (be)"
I guess everyone is allowed to think in wasteful dimensions once in a while...
Monday, September 10, 2007
The Lens...
This is something that I've grown to understand a while ago, but have only verbalized it recently...although I expressed it to several intelligent friends, I failed to clarify it - or maybe it's because they didn't get my point. I love what Albert Einstein once said, "you only truly understand what you can explain to your grandmother". So in otherwords, I better practice my Arabic more often...(hahahahaha, me so funnnnnnnie)
I tend to write for people who are educated and see things in a similar light as mine - one day I'll be able to simplify things better and eventually universalize the message I feel needs to be broadcasted.
Okay, so here it goes....
Due to intense politicization of the current period, culture, and era that we live in, we as humans are viewing and judging everything from a political lens (or perspective).
Allow me to explain. As an individual, I have the ability and right to judge a scenario or a person after thorough and unemotional examination...
(*sidenote: I am not saying you should be judgmental by judging too quickly, but I am arguing that with wisdom and experience, you need to make competent judgments and conclusions about people and situations. Go ahead, be like Tupac and say "Only God can judge me"; however, I really think that was a message sent out to judgmental individuals*).
...however, that judgment is governed by the perspective you see it from. When people express a firm opinion and try to soften the blow, they might say something "that's just my perspective", or something like that...
The truth is, we have several lenses (or perspectives) - so far I've discovered both a politicized and a spiritualized one; there could be others, but I haven't found them. Both are valid means of coming to a conclusion; HOWEVER, we make the unwise and unconscious mistake of using our political lens to judge something (or someone) that requires the spiritual lens.
Have I confused you yet? I'm trying to be clear - but I have trouble trying to make sense out of things, So I'm gonna further simplify it.
We tend to judge a situation or a person by looking through the wrong lens. We sometimes judge situations that require a spiritual perspective, with a political lens. Hardly do we ever judge a politicized issue from a spiritual lens, due to the fact that we (as I said above) have become so politicized that we've packed away our spiritual lens.
Have I made my self clear now?
Okay, now for the examples....
I am what some people refer to as a SUSHI (from a mixed, Sunni/Shia family). I have a feeling that my generation might be the last of this, due to the fact that sectarianism (a political thing) has dominated people's understanding of the true essence of the religion (which is a spiritual thing). Many people have unconsciously replaced spiritualism with politicism.
This is happening for the follow reason:
- We have a natural desire and inclination to discover the ultimate reality (The one God).
- However, this is not going to feed our need to find cultural solace,
- So we therefore turn to the culture of our parents, due to the fact that the Canadian social fabric is weak (due to the multiculturalism ideology our Federal Government encouraged - it left many young individuals in limbo; unable to understand what their Canadian identity is in comparison to the culture of their parents).
- Nevertheless, cultural values are consistently mistaken with religious principals; and in order for us to decipher the difference between the two, we need to go into a deeper study (which is nightmarishly difficult)
and within this study, we begin to make judgments... and we make these judgments without looking through the correct lens.
Have I made things clear? I know its really complicated - I'll probably post another essay later that's far simpler.
But to conclude, these are thing that I believe should be looked at through a spiritual lens:
1) your relationship with God and your soul
2) your judgment of others (i.e. don't judge someone according to their political or ideological affiliations)
there are others, but I have yet to verbalize them....but I hate it when someone looks down on me because I don't look at everything through a poli-fu*king-litical lense or because my take on religion, or my take on "Sunni's/Shia's" is not consistent with everyone else's.
I have my perspectives, my beliefs and understandings as to the purpose of the sectarianism... even if you are rather rigid to your ideology, I think that it should not interfere with your relationship with other Muslims, especially marital relations...
I will explain more later on, because I know I've begotten a million more questions
God forgive if I've said anything contrary to his natural law and system.
Philosophy to live by
Imam Ali (a.s) has said, ‘That knowledge is very superficial when it remains only on your tongue; the intrinsic merit and value of knowledge is that you ACT upon it’.”
in other words, you can talk the talk, but can you walk the walk?
Monday, August 27, 2007
Tuqwa, Iman & it's relationship to character
I could be totally wrong; I just do a lot of theorizing and I test it by asking my friends and scholars many questions, I look into different texts, ask Allah to guide me to see if my theory is correct and eventually, putting it into practice.
Allow me to explain the terms Tuqwa and Iman in laymen terms. Tuqwa can be understood as God consciousness. It can also be defined as fear of God; the type of fear from punishment, and the fear of wronging someone you really really love (if you truly love someone so much, you are conscious of every move you make and every word that you say, just so you may not disappoint them).
Iman is you confidence in Allah. How you trust him, your relationship with him and your ability to genuine see and feel his presence around you and inside your heart. People see Allah not with their physical eye, but the eye of their heart - in Arabic it is referred to as Haqq-ul-Yaqeen.
I do not know if everyone senses this or understands themselves in light of their relationship to Allah, but I do. I've pondered the universality of this and frankly, I know it is universal, but just because it is so, does not mean everyone can confirm or sense it. This is what I am growing to believe:::
That if you have characteristics, skills, and attributes that are grand, than your iman and tuqwa must be strong enough, in quantity and quality - to satisfy the capacity of the capacity you have. If your iman and tuqwa are weak, your great and unique abilities will never manifest.
First of all this is what you need to do:
You need to confirm and acknowledge the characteristics you have in you without fear of arrogance. You must do this; if you ever deny your truest potential and abilities - you have wronged yourself, Allah and those who you are benefit from your responsibility to them (side note: never view responsibility as a burden, it is a sincere honour to be given responsibilities).
There are many ways of acknowledging how amazing the characteristics you have and I am only sure of one way to do it without arrogance - by thanking Allah for them and asking him to help you use them in servitude to him.
You must search your inner most self; you must disassemble all that you have ever know about yourself and analyze everything from a logical point of view.
You must have a sufficient amount of knowledge to know what borders to cross and which ones to avoid
you must tour the depths of your mind with the vessel that is your heart. Knowing your heart may not be able to take the burden; it is not mechanical and it does adapt to harsh situations - so fear not and just embark on the journey.
There are other ways of humbly acknowledging your greatest characteristics and are necessary to do so for you to genuinely explore their potentials. I am not sure of them yet.
So back to my theory - These characteristics are unique or "high performance"; they might be rare and quite possibly, revolutionary (or at least the cause of one). In order for these characteristics to be truly manifested for the good of yourself and humanity - than you need to have Tuqwa and Iman that would shake the very foundation of the people who make eye contact with you.
Some people will see your potential without you having a strong Tuqwa or Iman. These are the people who will are heavenly appointed savior's, guides and, mentors. If they come across you, turn them not away, for you will be the loser.
If you ask me, these are the seeds of genuine self confidence and confidence in Allah. I think everyone has high potential - its just a matter of spirit and optimism.
I could be wrong, I don't know - I haven't confirmed anything, these are just thoughts - tell me what you think.
May Allah forgive me if I said anything wrong.
The Negative Thought Process
The awful yet deceiving burn of pessimism never ceases to cause harm. It is the epiphany of weak confidence and low self-esteem; working ever so tirelessly to lower the priceless value of the human individual. It garners its energy and strength from the natural chemicals that react when a negative situation arises; than your little fiend take advantage and pours fuel to further intensify the chemical reaction. It leads you to believe you have little or no worth, it guides you to think you have almost no value in the eyes of those who matter. When this happens, you back away from the people, convinced that they care not about you. It sickens your soul and forces you to think selfishly.
It is a genuine intellectual burden - one that has brought down individuals that could have towered over the masses in sincere servitude to God and his glorious creations. It eliminates love and poisons the heart with numbness - making it forget the blissful beauty of love and the sheer magnitude of intellect. It fools the person making them believe that everything is designed to falter and that nothing has the capacity to love them or care for them because they doubt the blessings God has given them. They question "why would God bless me? I am nothing worthy of blessings, I am just a person with little or no worth."
Pessimism is what breaks the backs of individuals, low self-esteem and poor confidence is the way to a deep black hole - one possibly designed to eat away at the fundamentals the person once held true.
Weak self-esteem, low dignity and weak confidence are not reflected in the persons ability to be extro- or intro-verted; but their ability to hold tight and honor what they genuinely believe in. For me, as a Muslim my principals are as follows:
- a strong belief that justice will prevail and God's wisdom is above all, it may not always be easily understood and one must be patient in pursuing it
- holding true that God does love those who have good intension's and do good deeds and believe in his absoluteness; whether they sin heavily or avoid it - they must be confident that God is guiding and protecting them from what yields no benifit
- holding true to yourself, believing you are someone created for a purpose and that purpose will affect your environment
- holding on to high-spirit, whether the times are Amazing or Miserable, high-tide or low-tide, or if they themselves have messed up chronically for the millionth time
and obviously, the fundamental belief of there is only on God, Allah; Muhammad is his mercy to earth and his messenger, Ali is the one endowed with the responsibility to carry the message forward and that Mohammad al-Mehdi will be the one to bring it back to its genuine path.
these must be held as fundamental truths, not because you are told they are, but you are convinced that they will prevail.
Genuine belief in yourself and genuine confidence is a reflection of those fundamentals you honor and hold true to - if you hold on to them weakly, than you yourself are weak.
Never abide by the laws of pessimism - forever remember by the wisdom of optimism; as unrealistic as it might seem when you've been conditioned to think negatively - it is the only real way to spiritual freedom.
May God forgive me if I've said anything contrary to the Quran and Sunnah.
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
Drawing Parallels between Modern Theories on Critical Thinking & Shiite Muslim Principals of Spiritual Purification
Modern Western science is understood without the intervention of religion. Prior to the European renaissance, the Old & New Testaments were used to understand Earthly and Astronomical sciences; however, if scientists made claims that contradicted the Christian doctrine, they would be penalized and eventually sentenced to death (Mirza, 2000). As the Muslim empire began flourishing 1400 years ago, so did science and technology (Mirza, 2000). Although hard sciences were elemental in the intellectual growth of the flourishing Muslim empire, it is spiritual growth made it possible. The Shiite Islamic teachings of spiritual purification made it possible for many people to discover and understand that which initiated curiosity. What made these teachings and practices so unique were not abnormal; they were consistent with the human desire for balance, happiness and tranquility. However, it is odd that many of the characteristics of people who are defined as spiritually sound and pure are parallel with the characteristics of critical thinkers. There are measurable characteristics that determine a person’s critical thinking capacity (Page, 2007). As well, Kohlberg’s (2007) stages of moral development define the different levels people attain in their understanding of morality and justice (Page, 2007). In several reliable Shiite Islamic texts, the characteristics of those who are in the process of spiritual purification are parallel to those of critical thinkers. They also discuss morality and justice and what particular levels Muslims should attain; oddly, they are also parallel to Kohlberg’s stages of moral development. The purpose of this study is to better understand the parallels between modern Western discoveries on critical thinking and Shiite Islamic dimensions of spiritual purification. This will be conducted by breaking down critical thinking characteristics and one stage of moral development as discussed by Page (2007). After this, several exegeses of well known Shiite Muslim texts will be dissected in order to isolate the different meanings of each characteristic used to describe the purification process. The final stage of research will analyze the similarities between the two schools of thought and recommend further research.
Modern Critical Thinking Theories
As there are many theories that explain, describe, and measure critical thinking, several scientist simplifies it with logic. Baron (1991) explains that critical thinking dispositions are learned tendencies that make us act in particular ways (Page, 2007). It is the science of individual thinking; it can be taught and encouraged with dedication and motivation (Page, 2007).
Paul (1990) proposes a unique and practical definition of critical thinking,
“Critical thinking is disciplined, self-directed thinking which exemplifies the perfections of thinking appropriate to a particular mode or domain of thought. It comes in two forms. If disciplined to serve the interests of a particular individual or group, to the exclusion of other relevant persons and groups, it is sophistic or weak sense critical thinking. If disciplined to take into account the interests of diverse persons or groups, it is fair- minded or strong sense critical thinking” (Paul, 1990, p. 4).
In the classroom, critical thinking defines the difference between exceptional students and otherwise. A student’s acquisition of long term knowledge is dependant on their ability to think critically about any topic that is presented to them (Paul, 1990, p. 1). When any student is presented with a ritualistic education; one in which the journey to the answer is not stimulated in the higher order of thinking (Paul, 1990, p.1), the desire to further gain knowledge is suffocated.
As stated by Paul, there are two orders of thinking, the lower and higher. Unfortunately, many students associate their education in their lower order of thinking. In this realm, learning is completed by association or rote (Paul, 1990, p. 2). For example, when a topic has been defined as one which only requires repetitive memorization, the learning center of the brain is under-stimulated and fails to retain and understand the nature of the topic. The lower order of learning does not require the use of logic (Paul, 1990, p. 3), it is the aspect in which rehearsal and recognition are computed; thus, preventing the thinking capacity of the student from reaching higher potential. Logically, the higher order is where critical thinking and analysis would take place.
Values that liberate critical thinking ability
The beauty of critical thinking is the fact that its philosophy can applied universally. It may appear different when looked at from a cultural context; however, the under-lying values and principals are consistent throughout the human race. They will be explained in the later part of this research.
Critical thought is beyond the computational aspect of thinking, it is the ability to think deeply and reflectively about a particular topic. It is using the power of thought to gain knowledge, instead of utilizing only what is dictated and heard by socialization. Critical thinking is intellectual discipline; it can be used to transform an entire person by starting with revolutionizing one’s basic modes of thinking (Paul, 1990, p. 4). Although it is something that can be taught, the student must have the desire and motivation to acquire it (Page, 2007).
Critical thinking in fundamental Shiite Islamic doctrine
As in any other organized religion, Shiite Islam holds several texts to be sacred. In addition to the Quran, which is used and held as the highest text by all Muslims, the Shiites have several other books that act as manuals for a successful worldly life and afterlife. In this research, several books were reviewed to draw an accurate understanding of the two schools of thought.
Spiritual Purification has stereotypically been affiliated with organized religion. We as carnal humans have maintained distant from it because of the political connotation affiliated with organized religion. We find difficulty in attempting to understand purification, due to the fact that many people fail to understand its complexity.
In Amini’s (1935) book,
The Peak of Eloquence is a compilation of sermons, letters and sayings of one of the greatest Islamic thinkers, Ali Ibn Abi Talib. He was defined as the gate to the city of knowledge. He not only held this standard, but he was the first Leader of Shiite Muslims & the fourth Caliph of the entire Muslim population 1400 years go. He is highly regarded as one of the greatest people to have walked the earth. To some scholars, the
The Psalms of those who Prostrate (1984) is a book of supplications written by Ali Ibn Abi Talib’s Grandson, Zain ul Abidin. He is the only male to survive Islam’s greatest tragedy, the massacre of Husayn Ibn Ali in the deserts of
Drawing the Similarities Between the Two Schools of Thought
Meta-cognition (self-awareness) is the key to critical thinking
In the journey towards becoming a critical thinker, meta-cognition is a step towards becoming intellectually independent. Although meta-cognition is an essential element in the critical thinking process, it should not be confused with it. If meta-cognition is the awareness of ones own thought process, than critical thinking would be the wiser and more intellectual version of it (Paul, 1990, p. 4). It is the stage before any degree of critical thought; therefore, before anyone has the capacity to critically understand the world, they must first be able to critically analyze themselves.
Amini explains the self as a single reality – one that possess various dimensions and facts within their single existence (Amini, 1934). There is a physical dimension, which occupies space and time; the animal dimension, which are carnal instincts; and lastly, the human dimension, which is wisdom, thinking, and thoughts (Amini, 1934). The objective of every person is to build their “human” dimension; without this, our success as individuals and as a collective group is lost.
In Shiite Islam, the entire objective of life is to purify and build the spiritual (human) self. It is the dimension that will define the survival and prevalence of humanity. Paul (1990) makes the very same argument about meta-cognition and critical thinking in his title,
“What every person needs to survive in a rapidly changing world” (Paul, 1990, p. 1).
The nature of Paul’s research is to develop a practical critical thinking criterion for teachers. There are several detailed lists that describe how to develop and condition certain characteristics; oddly, these are defined as virtues within the Shiite Islamic doctrine. A read though will instantly reveal the virtuosity of the characteristics because the people who do possess them are far and few between. The first list explains the perfections and imperfections of thought. They are fundamental disciplines that can be used for good or evil and with much practice and conditioning, grow to be an intellectual survival kit.
The critical thought characteristics are paired with the virtues of the purified; doing this shows the close relation of the two schools of thought: Clarity, logicalness and straightforward speech; precision, accuracy, specificity and attention to knowledge; relevance, consistency and steadfast in trivial times while upholding values; depth and a deep emotional desire to understand themselves; completeness and faith in conviction; fairness and humility; significance and adequacy for purpose (Paul, 1990, p. 4) (Radi, 2002).
Afterwards, Paul discusses interdependent and universal mental traits that are necessary when contemplating the self or any issue. Again, it is paired off with its sibling from the
The connection between critical thinking and spiritual purification is clear. Through sermons, supplications, and knowledge acquisition, Shiite Islam is whole-heartedly emphasizing its practitioners to be critical thinkers.
Nevertheless, both schools of thought offer many more characteristics with deep explanations; however, the nature of this research is to only draw a connection between the world of tested scientific fact and a spiritual understanding of the soul.
Kohlberg and the stages of moral development
As explained by Page (2007), Kohlberg theorizes and describes six stages of moral development. Although it starts at the onslaught of childhood, it continues throughout life and most people stop at the 3rd or 4th stage (Page, 2007). The sixth stage, known as universal ethical principals, is deserving of only a few people whose names have been etched in almost every mind. In this stage, Kohlberg claims that it is the application of transformational ethics. It is where a person understands the unbalanced and unfair dynamics that hurts society and works to deconstruct them and replace them with the universal principals of human rights (Page, 2007). In the sermon discussed earlier, Ali Ibn Abi Talib’s vivid account of spiritually purified people is closed off with,
“They transfuse knowledge with forbearance and speech with action” (Radi, 2002).
Thus, Kohlberg’s empirically proven understanding of highly evolved morals is consistent with people who are defined as spiritually purified. As this was the understanding of human beings 1400 years ago, it shows the consistency, validity, and universality of human moral evolution, regardless of generation.
Recommendations for further research
In the Canadian Context, this higher order of thinking would need to be experimented during adolescence. Topics and courses must be designed to teach them to individually utilize their mental capacities. Topics and course content must be enriching and controversial enough that it would naturally train the student to utilize their critical thinking ability (Paul, 1990, p. 4).
Although standardized testing can measure the algorithmic aspect of thinking (Page, 2007), it fails to measure the critical thinkers thought patterns which are learned over time.
One of the more difficult objectives of humanity is the breaking of bad habits. Whether they are manifested physically (smoking, alcoholism, and so on) or in poor thinking habits (dogmatism, prejudice, and so on), the unlearning process is wrenching. As this step in life is one of the greatest mysteries, we still hear of people who have overcome their bad habits. They all have unique stories, but I have not come across an empirically tested theory as to how unlearning occurs. It has been explained from a spiritual stand point in which Amini references several notable figures discussing the steps towards liberation from bad habits, but an empirically tested though process is difficult to find.
This area requires further research; if done so, it can help solve some of the greatest obstacles humans have come across. Because scientists shy away from using religious sources as assistance and inspiration for further research, it would be rather difficult to convince psychologists to use Shiite Islamic sources. The politics behind the religion and science debate stems from a feud between Darwinists and the Church. If this is overcome and behavioural sciences are tested from an Islamic perspective, than maybe, further progress can be made in understanding the science behind breaking bad habits.
Friday, March 09, 2007
Side effects....
and you let out anger....it further sours your heart.
it makes it hard
you become cold
uncaring and rude
I think I fool myself when i say i can take it
I just swallow it, but I'm sure its going to come back to hit me 10 times as hard.
I feel really cold
I feel almost soul-less
man, talk about a trial
Sunday, March 04, 2007
If there's gonna be a revolution, it's gotta start in your bedroom
Breaking bad habits is war.
Lets face it, our society is plagued by addiction. Things like, "shopaholics", gambling addictions, cigarettes, alcohol, video games, over eating, sex addiction et cetera, et cetera & et cetera. Almost anything and everything can be qualified as "addictive".
A bad addiction tends to keep you away from duties, it stops you from reaching your potential, it consumes precious time and honestly.....it oppresses your heart.
Only the ignorant and foolish say using your heart to make decisions is unwise. Let me make it clear....your brain cannot explore the depths of this universe without a strong willed and good heart.
If your brain is the universe, than your heart is the vessel that allows to travel within it.
However, the aspect of the heart is a very complicated one. It's not just a muscle that pumps blood;
It's also a fertile plot of land, waiting for the seed of a blooming flower that forever gives off beauty.
It seeks to be cultivated;
Anyways...anyone who desires a revolution, who wants to see change or simply, wants to make someone glow a warm smile, than their hearts need to be free; or at least working towards freedom.
Issues like compulsion and addiction are like shackles around the ankles and wrists; you become imprisoned by your limitations; or simply put, your carnal self.
There are people who argue that they need a change of scenery, a new life, a new place of "being", so that they might change.
I am working hard to prove this otherwise. I do believe that if someone is going to be the change the want to see, they have to start between the four walls.
Why, because your mind and heart are what need to change. That vessel of yours needs to be rebuilt and strengthened in order to withstand the dangers of the universe.
Have I confused you yet? I'm just trying to say that.....Nothing will make this world better, unless the world inside you is better.
Friday, March 02, 2007
Tests, Tests, Tests.
Their glowing faces and bright smiles tend to mask their pains; almost to the point where you might even think their lives are almost pain free.
Obviously, that's not true, every one of your mates, regardless of how big and bright their smiles might be, have something that's breaking their hearts. At the very least, it probably crosses their hearts every week.
Would it be fair to assume it crosses their minds daily? maybe even hourly? maybe the thoughts are so often, it distracts them from their obligations?
Maybe they're better at managing their internal life, quite possibly....they could have mastered the art of struggle & it doesn't phase them, it becomes second nature.
Too many maybes, not enough definites....so I'll stop asking questions and move on to my point.
If any of you take your struggles as seriously as I do; see them as tests. See them as something you need to prepare for, plan it like a war. Plan it as if you know you'll loose a lot, plan them knowing you'll come out injured. But may I make my point clear....never cease to gather each and every lesson from that test; whether you passed or failed.
My second point is, make this your personal responsibility & think about it as if it is your life's goal. Teach yourself, condition your weak & fragile heart to never loose it's cool; for "us as humans" this is the greatest attribute. It pieces together patience, wisdom, self-control, through thinking, conflict resolution & so many other priceless spirits that you will become someone with as much magnitude as a deep loving mother.
It's not easy, I know; if I had the formula to it, I would give it to everyone. I would dedicate my life to giving to everyone.
Bas khaleey'neh oulkoun sheh, iza badkoun seeroo haleem, lazem balshou bi' imankoun.
(But let me tell you something, if you want to become forbaring; you must start with purifying your soul).
You cannot start this by thinking of it as a "task" oriented process (i.e, if you want to be strong willed, you need to follow steps 1, 2, 3), it's far more complicated; when I find out, I'll let you know.
If you do know, please feel free to share you knowledge.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
The pangs of tough love....
He gives examples of many adolescents that have been reared in financially stable homes and are facing problems that are always co-related to poverty.
The problems they're dealing with prove that poverty is not a strong co-relation to rebellion and dangerous behaviour.
He sums it down to several social issues that all breed from social darwinism. The most obvious is the selfish phenomena referred to as "tough love". It's quite possibly the most destructive form of parenting. Where parents neglect the child for the sake of their own good ("neglecting" for their own good? I don't get it... That's like saying to your girl..."I'm gonna rape you for your own good....").
They do this when the child becomes "out of control" or "too rebellious" and what the parents do is disown their child by not commincating with them, being harsh and lacking empathy & eventually throwing them out on the street (or sending them to rehab).
Currie goes on to say many of these adolecents only rebel or loose control because they cannot live up to the ridiculously high standards society put out for them. They live to them for a while & eventually burn out. He also goes on to say that, the parents hardly ever acknowledge their child's success' and only criticize their imperfections (if I grew up in that kind of a home, I would have ended up the most ruthless thug on the planet, I am the definition of imperfection....Thank GOD for ma familia).
So, this social darwinism phenomena says that, "if your not the best, your nothing". The whole "survival of the fittest" motif, he claims, has destroyed an adolecents possibility to be just "human".
As well, he notes about the whole, American Christianity ideology which says "a sin is a sin". Whether I've lied, smoked crack or went on a killing spree, I'm in the boat of "wretched sinner"' so alot of religious and irreligious adolecents end up saying "the hell with it, whether I accidentally curse or get smashed, I'm just as bad, so whats the point of trying so hard to perfect?"
This forces many adolecents to completely disregard any potential of them doing good.
I've only summarized a portion of his book, there's so many things and I highly suggest you read his book too. But I would like to end off with the central reason as to why many adolecents are sinking terribly. It is because they've lost their sense of self "human" worth. The idea which plagues modern culture, which is a mix of social darwinism and some really bizarre form of Chrisindom says in this society that you either sink or swim; because sinking is just much easier when all the odds are against you, what do you have to loose.
Never loose your sense of worth, you, as a human, share the same value as everyone around you; priceless.
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
Khadija tul Kubra and Islam
Today, Islam is the greatest force in the world. Its enemies cannot do it any harm. It is like a mighty oak which the storms of the world cannot uproot. Yet there was a time when this mighty oak was a tiny sapling, and desperately needed someone to protect it from the hurricanes of idolatry and polytheism which threatened to uproot it.
Muslims may forget it but Islam cannot forget that in its infancy, it were Abu Talib and Khadija who protected it. They made Islam invulnerable. Abu Talib protected the sapling of Islam from the tempests of misbelief and heathenism; and Khadija irrigated it with her wealth. She did not let the sapling of Islam die from draught. In fact, she didn't even let it wilt from neglect. Protecting Islam was, for Abu Talib and Khadija, their foremost duty. Islam was their first love, and it was a love which they passed on, as their "legacy" to their children. If they - Abu Talib and Khadija - had protected the tree of Islam from its enemies in the lifetime of Muhammed Mustafa, and had "irrigated" it with vast quantities of gold and silver, their children and their grandchildren protected it, from its enemies after his death, and irrigated it with their blood. Their blood was the most sacrosanct blood in all creation. After all, it was the blood of Muhammed Mustafa himself - the Last and the Greatest of all Messengers of Allah, and the Chief of all Apostles and Prophets.
Khadija was an "eye-witness" of the birth of Islam. She nursed it through its infancy, through its most difficult, and through its most formative years. Islam was given shape and design in her home. If any home can be called the cradle of Islam, it was her home. She "reared" Islam. If any home can be called the "axis" of Islam, it was her home; Islam revolved around her home. Her home was the "home" of Quran Majid -the Book of Allah, and the religious and political code of Islam.
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It was in her home that Gabriel was bringing Revelations from Heaven for ten years.
Khadija has collected more "firsts" in the history of nascent Islam than anyone else. She was the first wife of the last messenger of Allah. She was the first Believer. She was the very first mortal to declare that the Creator was only One, and that Muhammed was His messenger. Next to her husband, she was the very first individual who heard the Voice of Revelation. She was the first person who offered prayers to Allah with her husband. Whenever he went into the presence of Allah, she was his constant companion. She was the first Mother of Believers. She was the only wife of Muhammed Mustafa who did not have to co-exist with a co-wife. All the love, all the affection and all the friendship of her husband, were hers and hers alone -exclusively!
When Muhammed Mustafa proclaimed his mission as the messenger of Allah, and told the Arabs not to worship idols, and called upon them to rally under the banner of Tauheed, a tidal wave of sorrows broke upon him. The polytheists began to thirst for his blood. They invented new and ingenious ways of tormenting him, and they made many attempts to stifle his voice forever. In those times of stress and distress, Khadija was a bastion of strength for him. It was only because of her and Abu Talib that the polytheists could not disrupt his work of preaching and propagating Islam. She made, in this manner, a most important contribution to the survival and propagation of Islam.
Khadija set basic standards that spell domestic peace, harmony, happiness and fulfillment, and she upheld and reflected them in her life. She demonstrated that the key to a family's strength and happiness is the degree of emotional closeness between its members. She spelled out the rights and duties of husbands and wives. The standards set by her, became the "blueprint" for family life in Islam. Muhammed Mustafa and Khadija spent twenty-five years together, and in those years, they formulated the "laws" that make a marriage successful and a life happy. Since then, even in temporal terms, the rest of the world has not been able to find better laws. Islam incorporated the same laws in its own programme.
Khadija turned the abstractions of idealism into reality. Her life with Muhammed is concrete evidence of that fact. What she gave to the world was not merely a set of principles or theoretical ideas but an experience, rich in moments of pure enchantment with Islam, and subtle rhythms of love for Allah and His Messenger.
As mentioned earlier, the pagan Arabs had a sense of honor gone all awry. It was their "sense of honor" which impelled them to kill their daughters. Islam of course put an end to this barbaric and horrendous practice by making it at once a sin against Allah, and a crime against humanity. Besides putting an end to female infanticide, Islam also gave dignity, honor and rights to women, and it guaranteed those rights.
Allah Ta'ala wished to demonstrate that the laws of Islam were all practicable. To demonstrate the practicability of those laws, and to show the Islamic "Design of Life," He chose the house of His slaves, Muhammed and Khadija. Without Khadija, the laws of Islam would have remained meaningless. In fact, it is even possible that Muhammed Mustafa could not have promulgated those laws without her.
One of the greatest blessings that Muhammed Mustafa and Khadija received from Allah Ta'ala was their daughter, Fatima Zahra. As noted before, Fatima was born after the death of her brothers, Qasim and Abdullah. She was only five years old when her mother died. After the death of her mother, Muhammed Mustafa, the messenger of Allah, became both a father and a mother for her. In bringing up his daughter, the Messenger of Allah was demonstrating the applicability of the laws of Islam. Since he is the model for all Muslims, they have to imitate him in all his deeds. He bestowed the utmost love upon, and showed the greatest respect to his daughter.
Both in Makka and in Medina, many important persons, such as princes and leaders of powerful tribes, came to see the messenger of Allah. He never rose from the ground to greet any of them. But if he heard that his daughter, Fatima Zahra, was coming to see him, he rose from the floor, went forward to greet her, escorted her back, and gave her the place of honor to sit. He did not show so much esteem and regard to anyone at any time in his life - man or woman!
SUCH IS THE BOUNTY OF ALLAH, WHICH HE BESTOWS ON WHOM HE WILL: AND ALLAH IS THE LORD OF THE HIGHEST BOUNTY.
(Quran Majid. Chapter 62; verse 4)
Allah Ta'ala bestowed His Bounty upon Fatima Zahra, the daughter of His friend and His messenger, Muhammed Mustafa.
It was Khadija's only daughter, Fatima Zahra, who became the recipient of the accolades of Heaven in the 76th chapter of Quran Majid - Sura Dahr. In fact, the whole chapter is "dedicated" to her and to her family comprising her husband, Ali ibn Abi Talib; her children, Hasan and Husain; and her maid, Fizza. She also became the "exegesis" of the 108th Chapter of Quran Majid - Sura Kauthar (=Abundance). Allah Ta'ala gave Khadija a son-in-law like Ali ibn Abi Talib who became the Lion of Allah; "the Right Arm of Islam;" and the shield and buckler of Muhammed Mustafa; and He gave her grandsons like Hasan and Husain who became the Riders of the Shoulders of the Messenger of Allah, and "the Princes of the Youth of Heaven."
Without a doubt, Islam means the practice of the house of Khadija; and without a doubt, Quran Majid is the "dialect" of her family. Her daughter, Fatima Zahra, and her grand-children, Hasan and Husain, grew up "speaking" Quran Majid. She has the same relationship to Islam and Quran Majid that light has to the eyes, lustre to a pearl; and fragrance to a rose.
Even the most eloquent of languages fails adequately to express or fittingly to commend, Khadija's merits. But Allah Ta'ala has promised His reward to his loving slaves like Khadija in the following verses of His Book:
THOSE WHO HAVE FAITH AND DO RIGHTEOUS DEEDS, - THEY ARE THE BEST OF CREATURES.
THEIR REWARD IS WITH ALLAH: GARDENS OF ETERNITY, BENEATH WHICH RIVERS FLOW; THEY WILL DWELL THEREIN FOR EVER; ALLAH WELL PLEASED WITH THEM, AND THEY WITH HIM: ALL THIS FOR SUCH AS FEAR THEIR LORD AND CHERISHER.
(Chapter 98; verses 7, 8)
What it means to be sincere...
Never reject someones sincerity.
"we as humans" can grow to be selfish enough to reject the sincerity of others. A perons words that lack sincerity is like a body that has no soul. So when anyone approachs you in sincerity, reply to them with the same caliber of sincerity.
This may be difficult, considering you may not feel the necessity or desire to be sincere; however, there are two ways that "we as humans" can be genuinely sincere, when we might feel otherwise.
1. actively listen to the other persons words; try hard not to think of how you want to respond, but focus on what they're saying (both verbally & physically). Direct your mind to the person speaking and seperate your brain from your personal thoughts & feelings. This helps you see between the persons words which is basically, understanding their sincerity. This is pretty difficult, but it's like anything else....practice will eventually make you a pro at it. But, the better you become at it, the easier it'll be to seperate the person's intentions from their inability to communicate their message (e.g. someone really angry, but just wants to do good).
2. Try really hard not to take anything personal, even if it is directed at you. As in, if someone is terribly upset with you, try hard not to erect a "psychological defense wall" that will prevent you from understanding their message. Even if someone is directly angry with you, humble yourself to listen carefully, even if it sounds like rubbish. You can humble yourself by instantly acknowledging you've done something wrong and by actively listening, you can disect why the person is emotional (or irrational, angry etc.) and this will help you connect with them.
"we as humans" should strive to connect with people on the basis of sincerity. This helps us connect with people on the most "human" level because sincerity is someones desire to be genuine.
We make the mistake of "wanting" to connect with people on the basis of their knowledge, wealth, status and so on. This is selfish and anti-human because sub-consciously we are wanting to "get" something out of them. But ofcourse, there are exceptions.
We cannot engage with people who we think will match or excell us in knowledge, these are the seeds of arrogance and we all know, it is a slipperly slope.
How do we do all this????
It's done through active consciousness. We need to make sure that we are not always acting or speaking on behalf of our habits (which humans portray unconsciously). "We as humans" need to know what our bad habits are. So that when we think they will come out, we will actively engage with ourselves to ensure that we will act according to what we know is best.
Again, there are always exceptions.
Just wishing "we as humans" can act like this all the time.
Monday, February 19, 2007
A Country's Most Valuable Export Is Not A Prodcut Or A Service But Rather A Myth.
(member of Israel's Knesset) lecture as the last
keynote speaker at the Israeli Apartheid Week (IAW) at
the U of T. Dr. Zhalka's opening statement was about a
very valuable Israeli export describing it as the Most
Important Export: the concept that Israel is a
democracy.
Dr. Zahalka's lecture was not yet another attack on
Israeli policies and practices and he did not throw
around details documenting atrocities and so on. Arabs
have done that for years without any success and
listeners largely tune out when they hear such
arguments against Israel and dismiss them as
Anti-Semitism citing the FACT THAT "ISRAEL IS A
DEMOCRACY TRYING TO DFENED ITSELF". What made Dr.
Zhalka's lecture interesting is the concept of Israel
EXPORTING a MYTH and buyers are willing to pay
exuberant sums of money, efforts, and morale compass
for it. There are endless buyers of such export
ranging from the traditional western politicians,
academics, and religious leaders to even Arab masses.
From the get go, Dr. Zhalka did not claim to be
neutral but stated that he will try to be objective.
He then went on to support his statement that Israel's
democracy is a myth by arguing that Israel's very
existence as a state for the Jews from outside
Palestine dictates that it can't be democratic for all
its citizens (because of the conflict it created
between Christians and Muslims on one side and Jews on
the other side). Simply put, democracies serve the
interests of the majority and Jews were a minority in
Palestine at the time of starting the process of the
creation of the state. To insist that Israel be
democratic is to change the demographics so that Jews
are the majority and Christians and Muslims are a
minority. To forcibly change the demographics of a
country is an undemocratic process.
The tragedy that befell the Palestinian people was due
to two things: first, the plan of outsiders to create
a state for the Jews and second and most significant,
insistence that such a state be democratic. The
insistence on the state of Israel being democratic
dictated that its demographics must change and that
its Muslim and Christian population must be
out-rooted. Palestinians would have been better off if
outsiders had decided to create an apartheid state
(like South Africa for example) whereby few powerful
European and Arab Jews ruled a mostly poor Christian
and Muslim Arab population because then there would
have been no need to expel the Palestinians and
eventually over time all would have learned to live in
one democratic country.
Demographics are the reason why Israel STILL IS NOT a
democratic state. As Israeli Arab population grows
very fast, the state is trying to ensure they do not
become a significant minority (the cutoff percentage
according to Dr. Zhalka is 30% of the total
population) let alone a majority. Laws are enacted to
prevent such growth. Such laws are enacted in “the
most democratic way”: they are proposed by the
government, debated in the Knesset, and voted on. To
an outside observer this is great democracy at work
but it does not take too much research to realize that
such laws have one clear objective: to discriminate
against Arabs in such a way that their population does
not grow. Democracies do not discriminate against
their minorities.
Sunday, February 18, 2007
A discourse on human relations with Allah (God)
"We as humans" have a problem.
We've done a terrible job at seperating our personal relaitonship with Allah from the political turmoil of the holy land. It is as if, our Iman (faith) is reliant on the truthfulness of certain nations/leaders of particular religious denominations. We tend to say, the christian religion is founded in the Neo-conservative policial ideology, or that, if you are a Sunni you side with Saudi Arabia and have faith in their leaders OR if you are a Shia, you have faith in Iran and have faith in their leaders OR if you are Jewish you have faith in Israel and their leaders.
STOP DOING THIS, this is anti-spiritual.
This is no way to conduct your religious affairs and will only act to corrode your personal relationship with Allah.
"We as humans" have a personal & private relationship with the ONE GOD; and this is above any political authority on this burdensome planet. Remember, your religion is not necessarily reflected in global politics. Do not rely on a particular country to help you re-affirm the validity of your religion.
Again, your relationship with Allah is above all, nothing determines it except your ability to witness him; not in the country which claims to carry it's flag.
Ameen.....If I've said anything incorrectly, forgive me.
A discourse on universality
The personal is the universal.
This is probably a poor way of trying to understand life, but I justify my understanding of humanity by saying: "I am a human, therefore I represent the entire human race".
By this I mean that, the experiences and encounters I meet are universal; that most or all human's will/have experienced them. From the billions who lived before us, the billions among us and God knows of the amount that will live after us.
I would have to say all humans (according to my limited perspective) will experience certain things that are constant with what all humans experience while living on this planet.
So anyways, when I say "we as humans"; I am mentioning something I've experienced. However, I also believe it is a universal experience; such that all humans will experience it or have experienced it.
Keep in mind, no one knows how we feel. However, this is a result of unique perception. "We as humans" are so unque that we all see the same thing, but interpret it differently.
It's been a while...So I'll start with something I love....women =)
Last night, a young brother and I were leaving a University campus, there was a lecturer discussing the rights of oppressed peoples in a "so called" democratic land in the Middle East. We walked out, not only mezmorized at what we learned from the speaker. We couldn't help but notice something.
The women at this conference were definately one of a kind. They were shockingly beautiful, sometimes, I couldn't help but stare like I was just hypnotized. Apart from their completely unique physical appearance, it was something else that made them so unique.....in arabic, we call it two things; Izzah & Istekama.
I have an obsession with these two terms; they are my favorite words in the arabic dictionary.
Izza means self-respect; something so many people lack....unforunately, it's plagued many women.
Istekama means up-rightness, firmness & dignity; again, its something so many of us lack.
These two elements make anyone beautiful; you can see it in their posture, their eyes, their voice.....essentially, its the foundation to their soul.
Anyways, back to women...
These women are the offspring of an oppressed people. They're obviously aware of the torment their people are enduring and I am wondering....these characteristics (Izzah & Istekama) tend to be of those who value their: a) a humanity b) a womanhood/manhood c) a spiritual 'being' d) their roots
What did the knowledge of those 4 points give them??
- it gave them DIGNITY, PRICIPAL & COURAGE.
I thought....apart from their gentle smiles, comforting voices, welcoming attitudes, piercing eyes & mountain moving hips.....what made these women worthy of humility was their understaning of the value of life.
I'm sure if I wanted to list the attributes of these women, I could go on 'till the wee hours of the morning, but I'll stop here saying....
How in GOD's name do you ask a muhajibah for her phone number????
Yeah I'm whack.....I know it, but I'm still a ging'gas'tar.